I thought I might explain each of the points I made in my last post Day 33 – Can You Create A List of the Top 10 Things You Wish You Knew Before to add more context to them. I wasn’t going to initially, but Carmen Lezeth Suarez (who you should go folloe as well) made me think that I should because each point has a story personal to me. Generally, it can be viewed “negatively,” but with an explanation, it’s another story.
1. Adult life is not as good as I thought it would be
When I was younger I always thought I would be this, and that, and I would have my own house, and my make my own rules, etc. But once I’ve got here, and even the journey getting here I’ve realised it’s not as great as I thought it would be, in fact, it’s not even close. I never knew you would be in a period where you’re just trapped. And no matter how much you try and push, you’ll still be stuck in this box. And with no time limit to when you’ll actually break free, It’s kind of suffocating and mental torture.
2. Relationships are not how they are in movies
I didn’t really know what the basis of a relationship was because my parents weren’t together when I was growing up. The only blueprint I had of a relationship was from movies. Of course, I saw the bad and the good times, and I always thought once you found someone you’ll be set, and when a problem arose you could always end up talking after to solve it, but that is not the case. It’s not as linear as that, and in fact, you’ll be lucky to get it off the ground, let alone get to those latter stages.
3. Humans are crap creatures/ 4. It doesn’t matter how nice you are, people will always dislike you
These two link so I thought I might as well put them together. Most of my whole life I was “picked on” (and I hate to phrase it like that, but it’s the best way for everyone to understand) for no reason. Never would look for trouble, but for some reason, it continued and got worse and worse as I continued to climb up the school ladder. Linking back to the fourth point, if people don’t want to like you, they won’t. And that doesn’t mean that there is no one that likes me, but humans are crap because they will dislike you, and cause you pain even if it’s not warranted.
5. I have a voice
I was the extremely quiet child, and to a point, I am still now. The only difference now is I will talk if I HAVE to. I was constantly bashed for something I can’t control and that put me down a lot. But as I’ve grown up I’ve realised more of my voice, and this is one of the ways I get to showcase it 😊.
6. I am more capable than I make out to be
I’ve surprised myself in recent years and I didn’t think most of the things I’ve done, and I am doing now was actually possible for me. I’m my own worst critic trust me. So if I think something I’ve done is “good,” it must be amazing lol.
7. University is scam
Really and truly, if you’re not trying to be something to do in sciences, law, work with children or something. Just don’t go to university. It’s pointless.
8. If you’re not trying to make your “own,” you’re not living
We were always taught growing up to work x job for how many years and then retire. But that’s not life, that’s slavery. I get we need a job to sustain ourselves, but if you’re not trying to at least make something that’s “your own,” whether that’ll be your own company, book, etc. You’re not living to the fullest. I’m sure everyone has their own personal “itch,” so try and scratch it at every opportunity.
9. Girls are mad
This is just from my personal experience. And just to elaborate, this is only when the word “relationship” comes into play.
10. Fairy tales don’t exist
I know that one in a million story will never be me. Life is a bunch of hands waiting to slap you in the face at every corner you take. That Cinderella story is a myth, and you need to strengthen your heart because this world is extremely cold.
But like I said, these are only personal to me. You might had a more positive outlook of teachings through life. So let me know your top 10 in the comments, and maybe we can all learn something from each other 😊.